I’ve always been fairly against the entire concept of New Year’s Resolutions. I totally understand the logic behind them – I simply don’t think they work. The entire concept of New Year’s has always been so overrated, and we place way too much pressure on it in my opinion. Between planning elaborate parties that seem to never meet our expectations to setting idealistic goals about how we’re magically going to become new versions of ourselves because of the date on our calendars…something about it has just never added up for me!
I’ve done a lot of thinking on this in recent years, and I think a big part of the reason so many people’s resolutions fail is that they’re essentially random. We simply choose something we think we want to change – usually a lifestyle behavior like working out – and then expect to be able to just magically focus on it. How can you expect to grow, change, or improve yourself if you haven’t taken a moment to reflect back on why you haven’t done this sooner and why you haven’t been able to get this done at any other point in the year?
This is why I think reflection is so much more important than creating a goal. That said, if you want to make a goal, more power to you! But don’t do it arbitrarily. Reflect first, and give your goals a little bit of guidance and knowledge so you can better understand yourself and what is important to you.
Naturally, telling someone to reflect sounds a bit vague and arbitrary – which is why I’ve created this incredible guide for reflecting on your past year that has gotten me to really think about my life these last couple of years…and some of the things I’ve uncovered have truly been complete surprises! Use the questions below and cozy up with a glass of wine or cup of tea and take time to really become your best self! 2018 is going to be your year – so let’s get started!
- What were the top five moments of your year?
- What are you most proud of? Most disappointed about?
- What is the biggest lesson you learned – and how have you changed since then?
- What did you spend the most time stressing about? Was it worth the time you spent doing so, and how did it work out?
- What were the three activities you did the most in your free time? Did they make you happier, or do you feel like that was time wasted?
- Who did you spend the most time with? Was that time enriching to you, or draining?
- What did you really think would happen this year that didn’t? Why didn’t it?
- When do you feel you were the best version of yourself?
- What money was the best spent, and what money was wasted?
- What is one attachment, behavior, belief or person that you are finally ready to let go of? What is one you absolutely want to keep?
- What is one thing you’ve done that makes you feel amazing?